Tue 22 Dec 2009 7:55 pm
I am so so sorry to share that our Baby Reid has passed away today. Suddenly, without warning, and without pain or distress (on his part).
While we were able to personally contact many friends and family members, there’s just no way to inform all of you whom have been impacted by his life.
As we firm up details, we will share them here. We are tentatively thinking of a short viewing on Saturday the 26th at 11am.
I am glad that despite all of the ’stuff’ and therapy, I have 
been able to live in the moment with Reid. I have watched as he increased his meaningful interactions, and just yesterday commented not only on these but also on the increase in his smiles. Reid has been a very happy child. A very patient child. When he was feeling well. (Reflux and gas aside.) He participated in most therapy sessions without complaint and didn’t 
even mind the helmet or braces that we asked him to wear. He allowed his sisters to hold him, and enjoyed watching them in awe and entertainment.
I’m not sure of my own role in this world anymore. Going from 2-3 doctor appointments and 7 therapy appointments a week, to nothing. (Ok, so I still have 2 wonderful girls who will require shuttling.) There are places that I don’t know if I’ll ever feel comfortable returning to without him… Despite my groans, my arms feel empty. And there are no longer breathing patterns for me to strain to hear.
The girls are exhausted, having ridden in a Fire Chief’s car, saying good-bye to Baby Reid in the hospital, and then having experienced the generosity of family-friends.
We appreciate all of the love, support, and assistance that has been offered. And please know that when we actually are aware of a need… we will ask. Problem is, I’m currently wading in wishy washy territory – unsure of my wants and needs from moment to moment.
Reid – I love you. I will miss you terribly. I’m sorry for all of the work that you’ve had to endure. And I appreciate your awareness of being loved, through your smiles and your efforts to play.
December 22nd, 2009 at 8:13 pm
I am so sorry for the loss of your son, Reid. It is with a very heavy heart that I am sitting here writing this. Reid is a very special little boy, and will certainly continue to be so in the hearts and minds of you both, your families and friends, and anyone that reads this blog. I am so very, very sorry.
December 22nd, 2009 at 8:22 pm
Pam, I am so sorry to hear about baby Reid. Theres nothing I can say that will take away the pain that you and your family are feeling right now. You and your family are always in my thoughts and prayers, and just last week I meant to email you too see how things went with Dr. Youngs after we seen her. Please if you need anything I am not far away. Also, could you please let me know the funeral arrangements. My heart goes out to you.
Jodie Jose
December 22nd, 2009 at 8:38 pm
I am SO sorry to hear this! It comes as a total shock to me. Please update the blog when you firm up the arrangements. I would like to come and pay my respects, to Reid and the rest of your wonderful family. I am just so sad. I don’t know what else to say…
Heart hugs,
Jenni Black
December 22nd, 2009 at 8:52 pm
My heartfelt condolences to all of you. I am so very sorry for your loss.
My deepest sympathy is with you.
Deb Roundtree
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:03 pm
Dearest Lessa and Ivy,
We promise to do our very best to remember Reid, a special, tender little soul. We will do all we can in the future to keep our memories of him alive for you both to hear.
Know that you and your parents are loved dearly, and our hearts are heavy for you this night.
Aunt Amy and Uncle Jeff
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:19 pm
I am totally stunned. Although I have not met you in person, I feel like I know your family as I have read your blog for a long time. I pray for your family and may the healing hand of God be over your family.
With sincerest sympathy,
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:31 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that your family will be in my prayers.
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:59 pm
We have never met but I started reading your blog a few weeks before Reid’s birth. I was just devastated to see your entry today. Please know that total strangers are thinking of you and praying for you. Many years ago I experienced the loss of a baby and found much comfort through an organization called Compassionate Friends.
The world may never notice
If a Snowdrop doesn’t bloom,
Or even pause to wonder
If the petals fall too soon.
But every life that ever forms,
Or ever comes to be,
Touches the world in some small way
For all eternity.
December 22nd, 2009 at 10:02 pm
Pam and Namir,
I am deeply shocked and saddened to read about Reid’s passing. My heart just breaks (again) for your family. I wish there was something I could say or do to help ease your pain. You will be in my thoughts over the next few days, and I will attend the viewing. I am off work until Jan 5th, so please let me know if there is anything I can do to help.
Billie
December 22nd, 2009 at 11:31 pm
Namir & Pam ~
I am stunned by this news and my heart is so sad for you & the girls.
I don’t know what to say, other than I’m so very sorry for the loss of Reid in your day-to-day life. He was a beautiful little boy.
December 23rd, 2009 at 12:49 am
I was saddened and shocked to hear the news about baby Reid. Your whole family is in our thoughts and hearts this holiday season.
December 23rd, 2009 at 12:51 am
Gharaibeh Family:
We are so sorry for your loss. Reid touched so many lives. He was an amazing little boy. I wish I could make the pain all go away. He will be watching you all from heaven. He has also been in touch with his other sibling as well. They are both together!
If you need to talk I’m an email or a phone call away…
You are in our thoughts and prayers…
Michele & Mike Abdulaziz
Joey 11-22-93/7-5-03 (js)
Benjamin 2 yrs
December 23rd, 2009 at 1:06 am
I have been reading your blog for a while and always drawn to how beautiful and strong your family is. Thank you for sharing Reid with your readers, as we’ve all fallen in love with him. I’m also glad to have briefly met your family at the conference this past summer. Our deepest emotions go out to you, as well as our thoughts and prayers.
Mike & Sue Lee
December 23rd, 2009 at 5:24 am
Dear Pam, Namir and Lessa and Ivy, My heart has ached for you daily. As we (Pam and I) sat the ONE time I visited, and talked about your impending delivery of a healthy baby Reid and then learned that he was immediately whisked off to nicu the ache began again. I just could not believe it. Then there was the very long time before he went home with so many needs. I watched your daughters continue to grow so happily and more and more beautiful as you fought the valiant fight to revive him time after time. I know you did everything humanly possible to help him progress and live well. He knew he was truly loved as even your first beloved Galen did. May you find peace as you go forward with your two lovely children. Thank you for continuing to share with us. Much love to you.
December 23rd, 2009 at 6:59 am
I was shocked to hear about the news of baby Reid’s passing. My deepest sympathies go out to you. You don’t know me but I’ve prayed for you many times. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
December 23rd, 2009 at 9:22 am
I am so sad, so so sad about your loss… I am sure your little Reid is happy where he is, watching over you his mum, dad and sisters, and that you will meet again one day… But this doesn’t take away the pain… Your little boy has been loved, so much… I will always keep him in my prayers. Always.
Sylvia
December 23rd, 2009 at 9:46 am
anything at all you need, you tell us. We’re so glad we were able to meet Reid and he will be missed by us all.
December 23rd, 2009 at 10:15 am
My thoughts and sympathy are with your family. Thank you for writing about finding the laughs. And thank you to Reid for his gifts of them. I wish you comfort at this time.
December 23rd, 2009 at 10:33 am
oh my god. You guys don’t deserve this.
December 23rd, 2009 at 3:07 pm
I am so so sorry for your loss. Your baby Reid and his family are in my thoughts.
December 23rd, 2009 at 4:50 pm
I simply do not have the apporpriate words to express my sorrow for your huge loss. I only wish you all strength and I will send prayers to help support you through your crisis.
Love to all.
December 23rd, 2009 at 5:41 pm
oh my gosh. I’m so sorry for your loss. hugs.
December 23rd, 2009 at 5:55 pm
Oh my god. I have followed your blog since before the triplets were born. I hadn’t checked the blog in a while and this news blew me away. I’m so terribly sorry. There just aren’t words.
December 23rd, 2009 at 6:11 pm
My own daughter is a 24 weeker, and I’d found your blog linked from others. I’m so sorry to hear about Reid. He always looked like a happy little boy in your pictures.
December 23rd, 2009 at 8:14 pm
Pam & Namir, our thoughts and prayers are with you. So very sorry for your loss. There are just no words. He was a lovely little guy. So glad for the chance to have met him, at the walk. Praying for you all. Billie’s mom, Deanna
December 23rd, 2009 at 10:27 pm
Pam, Namir and Family,
We at Kelly’s Kidz have our thoughts and prayers with you and your family. We are so sorry to hear of your loss. If there is anything that we can do please let us know.
Dave and Kelly Hermann
December 23rd, 2009 at 11:02 pm
Pam, Namir, Lessa & Ivy,
The girls and I are simply stunned. I am so glad that you brought the kids to school last week so that we had the pleasure of meeting Reid. It was so much fun to watch him react to the singing and noise of the other children.
You are all in my thoughts and prayers!!!
Love,
Barb Clock
December 24th, 2009 at 12:06 am
I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts during this difficult time.
December 24th, 2009 at 12:16 am
I’m so very sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace and comfort. I’ll be thinking of you.
December 24th, 2009 at 12:36 am
I’m so very sorry to hear of Baby Reid’s passing. Hope you will find some comfort in the presence of family and friends.
December 24th, 2009 at 12:52 am
Here from LFCA, wanting to add my support and thoughts for your family as you mourn the loss of your beautiful son. His life, while too short in days seems to have been long in its reach and overwhelming in its love.
xxoo
December 24th, 2009 at 3:43 am
My deepest sympathies, I’m so deeply sorry for your loss!
December 24th, 2009 at 3:58 am
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts.
December 24th, 2009 at 7:22 am
Here from LFCA — I’m so incredibly sorry of the death of your son, Reid. Remembering him today, and holding you all in my heart.
December 24th, 2009 at 9:54 am
I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to understand your pain. You’re in my thoughts and prayers. (((hugs)))
December 24th, 2009 at 10:31 am
I am so sorry for your loss. I pray that you will find peace and comfort in the midst of sadness. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Kendra Lynn (friend of Billie’s)
December 24th, 2009 at 12:16 pm
I am so very sorry for your loss—Reid was an incredibly lucky little boy to have been born into such a great family. You’re in my thoughts.
December 24th, 2009 at 12:52 pm
Sorry for your loss. Thinking of you guys.
December 24th, 2009 at 1:14 pm
I am here from Billie’s blog. I am so terribly sorry to hear of your tragic loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Tertia
South Africa
December 24th, 2009 at 2:05 pm
My sincere sympathy. You wrote a beautiful eulogy here.
You might want to read the blog for Gavin Owens, who passed last month. His Mom still provides posts on how she and her family are doing.
December 24th, 2009 at 2:40 pm
No words can completely express the sadness we feel for the loss of Reid. He was such a brave little boy. I still recall his enjoyment at his great-grandmother’s birthday party. Janet and I and the rest of the family will be in touch shortly
December 24th, 2009 at 2:48 pm
I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
December 24th, 2009 at 2:50 pm
Namir and Pam . . . you gave Reid the most beautiful, blessedly full life, as you have your miracle daughters. I am shocked at how unkind fate has been to such devoted and loving parents. I’ve followed your blog since the birth of the triplets and will continue to follow as long as you allow us the window into your lives. I grieve with you for Baby Reid.
December 24th, 2009 at 3:25 pm
I am deeply sorry to hear of your loss. Our hearts are with you this holiday season.
December 24th, 2009 at 3:36 pm
Hi,
I heard your story though Holland and Edens story. I am so, so sorry for the loss your family is going through. It must be heartbreaking, but I would like you to know that there are many people out there thinking of you and wishing you the best in this situation.
December 24th, 2009 at 3:59 pm
I am so sorry. Prayers…
From LFCA
December 24th, 2009 at 5:31 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking about all of you. ((hugs)) from LFCA
December 25th, 2009 at 8:49 am
I am so very sorry for your loss. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
From LFCA
December 25th, 2009 at 12:09 pm
I am so very sorry about Reid’s passing. He looks like a wonderful boy who loved his time here with you.
Sending you much love and hugs.
December 25th, 2009 at 12:59 pm
So deeply sorry for your loss, my heart breaks for your family. Thinking of you all.
December 25th, 2009 at 7:13 pm
thought of your family throughout today. Hoping you were able to find some peace with the beautiful spirit your little guy brought to the world. there will never be anyone like him again. I met him a few times at our clinic. I loved looking into his eyes. It made my day. thank you.
December 25th, 2009 at 8:09 pm
so, so sorry.
December 25th, 2009 at 9:31 pm
I am so very sorry for your loss. Your family is in my prayers.
December 25th, 2009 at 9:37 pm
Hi. I came here from Holland and Eden’s blog. I add my condolences and prayers to everyone’s. Clearly, you have been an amazing mom to Baby Reid, and your two girls.
December 25th, 2009 at 10:52 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself.
December 26th, 2009 at 1:05 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers.
Fran
LFCA
December 26th, 2009 at 2:20 pm
Oh my goodness. I am so sorry to hear about your sweet little Reid. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
December 26th, 2009 at 5:22 pm
I’m so, so very sorry to hear about sweet Reid. I’ll be holding you all close in my heart and my prayers.
December 27th, 2009 at 10:28 am
I am just so very sorry for your loss.
December 27th, 2009 at 3:20 pm
I am so so sorry for your loss. Thinking of all of you and sending healing thoughts your way.
December 27th, 2009 at 7:06 pm
I am so very sorry. I wish there was a way I could wisk you all away from this nightmare. Again, I am left asking, Really? More pain? More loss?
You two are amazingly strong people, stronger than you’d probably ever imagine you’d have to be. If you need anything, even from a state away, I am here. You are both in my prayers.
Kim
December 30th, 2009 at 1:32 am
I am so, so, sorry for your loss. My heart just aches for you and your family. All of you are in my thoughts.
December 30th, 2009 at 10:50 pm
I am a long-time reader of this blog, and I’m sad to be making my first post under such heartbreaking circumstances. I am so, so sorry for the loss of baby Reid.
The two of you have suffered pain that no one should have to endure, yet every step of the way you’ve been indisputably wonderful parents, full of love and joy. All of your kids are lucky to have such an amazing mom and dad. I wish you well during this painful time.
January 11th, 2010 at 8:15 am
I just read this. I’m so sorry.
January 22nd, 2010 at 9:41 pm
I’m so sorry for your loss, and for everything you’ve endured. Your devotion to your children shines through this blog and inspires me to become better. I will be thinking of you.